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Thursday, April 21, 2011

The Story of two D's

There were two girls named D. They met their first week of college. It was kinda crazy how much they had in common. They had similar hair, a similar story, and they ended up with a pretty close relationship. One summer they were roommates and they took a lot of classes together. Their paths crossed often.

Early in their college experience one of the D's was getting ready for her first big exam. Another student, an upperclassman, offered to help her study. It was kinda late so she wasn't supposed to be in his dorm, but he told her it wouldn't be a big deal and snuck her in the back. they studied for the exam and before she knew what was happening he was coming onto her. She told him he wasn't interested but he pressed the issue. He forced himself on her.

The next day she was in a daze, unsure of what happened. If this guy had sex with her it must mean that he loved her. She wasn't interested in him, but she'd have to marry him now, right? She was confused. Her friends saw it and asked questions. Eventually she went to the hospital and reported to the college disciplinary board.

Long story short, he was given a slap on the wrist and she was given work duty for being in a boys dormitory after-hours. Campus Administration didn't support her, and many students on campus thought she was lying, because this guy "just wasn't the kind of guy to do this sort of thing". Her life changed as a result of that. 

The other D enjoyed her college experience. She saw the injustice done to the other D and supported her. She volunteered and even interned with a non-profit that worked with victims of sexual assault.

Her senior year she was the president of a Greek organization on campus. One of the younger members was her DD for the formal. She threw caution to the wind and had a single goal, to have fun. After a few drinks at dinner she met a cute bartender at the venue. Turns out she'd ran across him before, he gave her free drinks and they flirted all night. They ended up making out in the kitchen. Her friends found her just after he'd gotten a key for a room upstairs.

They took her home.....

I was a lot luckier than my friend D. It's easy for me to put myself in a victim's shoes, because when I woke up sober then next day I realized that a guy I barely knew (who had an arrest record) almost took my drunk ass up to hotel room. I was so wasted two friends had to help me to the car that night. I was a virgin, who at the time had full intentions of saving herself for marriage. If he'd assaulted me, who would've believed me? Not the school (I'd gone with him) not law enforcement (I'd been drinking and made a poor decision). My friends probably. They knew me well enough to know that when I was sober I'd be glad they got me out of there. The other D just wanted to study for a test with a "nice" guy who'd offered to help her.

It could've been me.

No one asks to be raped. No one deserves to be raped. 

Just because I let you watch a movie on my TV doesn't mean you get to take the flat screen home with you.

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Laid P.3 Cock Ring

So I received the Laid P.3 cock ring for review from Babeland.com. The package had a nice clean look and the slide out box actually had a cutout beneath the foam insert with a small container of lube. The ring was made of 100% silicone. I liked that it had some weight and substance to it as opposed to the other flimsy jelly types we've used. It was very pretty actually. I had already seen a review that mentioned how large it was so I was nervous. The down-side is that is is only available in one size.

So when we pulled it out to use it that was also the first thing J said. "I'm worried it may be too big." I wasn't so sure, it looked about right to me. He was right though. It wasn't big enough to fall off or anything but it wasn't tight, so it didn't really have much of an effect for us. It would be very nice if it were available in different sizes.

The ring measures 2 1/2" by 2" on the outside, and the inside of the ring is about 1 1/2 inches in diameter, or about 38mm. Like I said it's made with 100% medical grade silicone so the material is very body safe. Very nice. I just suggest measuring before you buy it.

You can go here for your sex toy needs!

Check it out!


Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Victim-Blaming

I've already talked about the fact that is is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and I'm sure by now you've all noticed the "Get Involved" button. I just wanted to show you guys another wonderful campaign that really gets to the heart of the matter.


In our society rape has become a social issue as opposed to a moral one. I was playing trivia at a local restaurant a few months ago and there was a team of guys in their early twenties. You make your own name and this particular place has some pretty crazy ones. 

These douchebags? 'Duct Tape makes "no, no no", sound like "mmm mmm mmm".' SERIOUSLY!?

They thought it was funny! I nearly vomited. The next week it was something equally appalling and what do you know, I don't go there anymore.

But aside from these assholes there are lots of people out there who want to believe that anyone who is raped could have prevented it if they'd just done something differently. Society wants to believe that it couldn't happen to them, and so they blame the victim. 

This has to change.

I would ask everyone to visit the Start by Believing website and commit to respond to people in your own life with belief and support. It's just another way to commit to supporting victims and working towards a society where people can feel safe and supported.

Don't forget to join my little Blog Campaign by posting on the issue and displaying the button on your page! Leave a comment to let me know!

Friday, April 15, 2011

April Showers Writing Contest!


I know you are all ready for another sultry writing contest and I aim to please! This theme is April Showers, so I want your slick, hot, wet stories of erotic encounters. Any erotica with a water element is welcome. We're going to go the anonymous route again so e-mail your entries to scandalinthechoirloft[at]gmail[dot]com and I will post them here. The contest will remain open for submissions through the end of the month (May 6th, 2011 11:59pm EST) at which point the entrants can post a vote button on their pages directing their readers to vote while remaining anonymous. I think that blind voting is the most unbiased way to run it, and hopefully some of my shy friends will write their first erotic story for submission!

As for the prizes, the first place winner will receive a water friendly prize package that includes a discreet rubber duckie vibe, a waterproof collection of erotica (aqua), and a necklace/bracelet and earrings set (not so water friendly)







As always if I receive ten entries there will be a second place prize! That prize will be a vibrating bath sponge, and a necklace and earrings set.

I know you all want these prizes, and I know you want some sultry stories to read so grab your keyboard and do your thing!

*First person to enter gets a prize!!*


Rules:
1) NO rape fantasies.
2) NO humiliation. D/S is totally cool as long as both parties are willing participants. There will be no beating victims into submission.
3) NO "Golden Showers" or anything like that. I haven't seen it yet, but everyone else has it as a rule so I figure better safe than sorry.

Thursday, April 14, 2011

The Birthday Present

So I am back in town, finally! Of course I came home to discover I'd inadvertently upset my girl J. It seems that my non-presence here on the site has upset her. Her birthday is next week and for her birthday I promised a Mondays with Missie post, and at least one post a day that isn't a review!

What have I gotten myself into?!

I also have a contest to kick-off! Come back tomorrow for details!!!

Monday, April 11, 2011

Makeup Monday with Steph!

Makeup Monday
Hey everyone! I am Stephanie aka Babes Rockin Mami, if you want my whole life story read my blog and if you want to know more about me then read HERE. Dscandal asked me if I would like to guest post and I said YES! Of course, and I love to share makeup tips so I am guest posting my Makeup Monday. I decided to go with a purply smokey eye, the shadow I used has a slight duo crome with some blue so it looks really unique.
PRODUCTS USED
ON FACE:
Cover Girl Clean Makup in #520
Cover Girl professional loose powder #110
concealor, hard candy, not sure of the name it's a line sample
elf eyebrow kit
Hard Candy blush crush baked blush #127 Honeymoon used as a highlight
mark Glowdacious (bronzer) in Shimmied Up
mark blush in Urban Glow
ON EYES
mark imark in Plum Velvet
Wet n Wild the purple & white in the I'm Retro palette
generice black pencil liner
L'oreal Voluminous Million Lashes in Black
Hard Candy Ginormous Lash volumizing mascara in Carbon Black
ON LIPS
mark Glow Baby Glow in Bubbles
a smidge of the purple in the I'm Retro palette
Start with your prepped face. Foundation, concealor, powder, bronzer, blush, highlight and whatever else you use.
I used the imark plum velvet as a base color for the smokey eye
Next I took a damp brush and applied the purple from the I'm Retro all over your lid and blend it out, blend, blend and blend! As long as you keep blending it will look better, that makes it smoky! Any fall out or stray color can be cleaned up later.
The finishing steps are to add the white of the I'm Retro under your brow and in the inner corner of the eye, line your water line with the black pencil and add several coats of mascara. I like to layer mascaras which is why I have two listed. I also smudged some of the purple under my eye as well. Put on your lip gloss and you are good to go!
My hair had just been washed so it was up. Wasn't that easy! Check back on my blog every monday for new makeup & beauty stuff!

Friday, April 8, 2011

You gotta get one of these!

So, I was holding on to this because I'd like to do a full review of the Liberator Wedge/Ramp Combo, but I have other reviews that are in the "must get done" category so I decided instead to just give you an idea of how much you NEED these!


A few months ago I worked to save up gift cards I'd earned/won from edenfantasys to get the Liberator Wedge/Ramp Combo. When it came I was initially surprised by the size of it. I'm not sure why I'd expected it to be smaller, maybe I just hadn't processed. Either way, the only down side to the combo is storage for the Ramp. Because of it's size it will not fit beneath my bed which means I have to maneuver it into my closet, making it less accessible than the wedge that I simply slide beneath the bed.


You still need it! I'm just saying that if you can only get one for now, start with the wedge, you'll likely use it more often.


As far as how well they work? WOW! Who knew that a little positioning would make all the difference! I just the wedge regularly now when we are doing it doggie style because I can stay there longer and more comfortably with it. It's also phenomenal for oral sex! Just putting that out there.

Using the Ramp and Wedge together has been great too. Like I said it doesn't happen as often because in the moment the wedge is simply more accessible for us, but when we do take the time to pull it out, it's amazing!!

The combo is also great for oral. There are all kinds of positions that are easier and more comfortable with the Liberator shapes. I love love love doggie style and these shapes really have made that easier for us. Also when I'm tilted like that he has better access to use his hands during sex and I REALLY love that.

I love sex toys. Vibrators, cock rings, they're up there on the list. But this has definitely been the best sex aid that I've purchased to date. There are just soo many benefits to these shapes. We always think of new positions we want to try and we have certainly not gotten through the whole list yet, but I just had to share and make sure that you know just how much the Liberator shapes are WORTH THE MONEY!

So visit edenfantays and add it to your cart. Go ahead, do it. You won't regret it. I promise!

Liberator wedge ramp combo - Sex Toys for Couples - Liberator Shapes

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

National Day of Action!


April 5th is the National day of Action for this year's SAAM campaign. In keeping with the "It's time" campaign the National Sexual Violence Research Center is encouraging people to change their social networking avatars to picture of themselves with a clock of some sort. When people ask about the image it gives individuals an opportunity to talk about the issues and raise awareness in their communities. I would encourage everyone to participate if you can.

Also don't forget about the Blog Campaign! I'd love to see this catch fire! Let me know if you've posted the button and I will add you to my list of participants. If you change your avatar on facebook or twitter be sure to friend me or follow me there so I can recognize you on those pages as well!

Friday, April 1, 2011

It's Time...


April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. I've shared here before that in my job I work with victims of these types of crimes. Often times the injustice that crops us around these cases gets me all fired up and it bubbles over into this blog. 

National Statistics show that 1 in 6 women will be a victim of Sexual Assault in their lifetime. Considering that statistics also show nearly 70% will never report, imagine the implications. Most of us have been touched by Sexual Assault even if we don't realize it. Perhaps you yourself have been a victim, or a close friend or family member. Maybe your mother or grandmother was a victim and never told you, but it has effected the way that you were raised, and what you were taught as a child.

Sexual Assault touches us all. It crosses all gender lines, races, and age groups. The statistics on child sexual abuse are absolutely staggering. 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before the age of 18.

I embrace my sexuality, and to imagine having something like that ripped away... it's an experience I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Sexual Assault is a horrible trauma to go through. Then, in order to seek justice that very personal experience is made public and replayed over and over again. Unfortunately we see a lot of victim-blaming in our society as well, so is it any wonder that many men and women choose to stay silent?

As members of society it is time for us to stand up and say that no one should have to stay silent out of fear of judgement or repercussion. We need to get involved to promote awareness and provide support to our friends, family members, and peers who have suffered this type of abuse.

This year the National Sexual Violence Resource Center has launched a Campaign to engage bystanders to get involved with the prevention of these types of crimes. For the month of April I would encourage everyone to display this button on your blog and write a post to highlight Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Perhaps you have a story to share, or simply want to raise awareness with your followers. Perhaps you could research resources in your area and publish them in a post. 

If you post on this issue please comment to let me know. I'm going to compile a list of participating bloggers in my sidebar. 

I encourage you to look into any awareness events happening in your area and get involved on a local level. 

It's time to get involved.


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