I'm surrounded by people right now who are in relationships at different stages. Some new, some seasoned, some engaged, some married, and some divorced. Watching the spectrum around me I know that there is no solid formula for what time line equals a lasting relationship, but as I've said HERE, I am convinced that it takes at least 6 to 8 months for the crazy to begin to surface.
I don't want to risk talking about other people's relationships to specifically, but there are a few things I don't understand. Why would a beautiful young girl stay with someone who showed blatant signs of stalking and control in the first week they were together? Why would a woman who has only been with a man two months assume that a convicted abuser and stalker was telling her the truth? Why do proposals seem to follow the first fight? (I have seen this one a couple of times lately and I don't understand!) Talk about Rose-Colored Glasses! These things just scream "RUN!" to me.
I'm not perfect, and I know that my relationship is not going to stay as beautiful and pure as it feels right now. It's called a honeymoon phase. I get it. We will fight at some point, and I'm sure that when we do it will be a doozie. In a way that will be a good thing. I need to know how he reacts when he's mad. I need for him to know how I react when I'm mad. These are some of the reasons people date. You need to know someone, really know them, before you start thinking about Wedding Bells.
My mom got engaged after a fight, and I grew up without my dad around. Don't get me wrong I'm glad to be alive an all, but it wasn't an easy childhood experience. Maybe that is why I'm all about watching for the red flags and taking it slow. What are your opinions or experiences with fast moving relationships? Are the rose colored glasses just thicker for some people?