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Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Red Flags and Rose Colored Glasses

I'm surrounded by people right now who are in relationships at different stages. Some new, some seasoned, some engaged, some married, and some divorced. Watching the spectrum around me I know that there is no solid formula for what time line equals a lasting relationship, but as I've said HERE, I am convinced that it takes at least 6 to 8 months for the crazy to begin to surface.

I don't want to risk talking about other people's relationships to specifically, but there are a few things I don't understand. Why would a beautiful young girl stay with someone who showed blatant signs of stalking and control in the first week they were together? Why would a woman who has only been with a man two months assume that a convicted abuser and stalker was telling her the truth? Why do proposals seem to follow the first fight? (I have seen this one a couple of times lately and I don't understand!) Talk about Rose-Colored Glasses! These things just scream "RUN!" to me.

I'm not perfect, and I know that my relationship is not going to stay as beautiful and pure as it feels right now. It's called a honeymoon phase. I get it. We will fight at some point, and I'm sure that when we do it will be a doozie. In a way that will be a good thing. I need to know how he reacts when he's mad. I need for him to know how I react when I'm mad. These are some of the reasons people date. You need to know someone, really know them, before you start thinking about Wedding Bells.

My mom got engaged after a fight, and I grew up without my dad around. Don't get me wrong I'm glad to be alive an all, but it wasn't an easy childhood experience. Maybe that is why I'm all about watching for the red flags and taking it slow. What are your opinions or experiences with fast moving relationships? Are the rose colored glasses just thicker for some people?

Monday, March 28, 2011

Gearing up!

I'm gearing up for April. It's always the busiest month of the year for me and this year is no exception. I have something lined up for Sexual Assault Awarness Month that launches on Friday and I hope that all of my blogging friends and facebook savvy followers will participate!
I also have another writing contest for you that will launch the second week in April! So get your juicy story-telling hats on! This contest theme is April Showers! More details then but I already have the prizes in hand. I hope you will all be very excited about it!

I'll be out of town one week for an awesome conference in Chicago! I'm super excited. I'll be catching up with an old friend while I'm up there so it should be a great time. All in all, I'm busy guys. So bear with me. If anyone feels like sending a guest post my way please leave me a comment and we can talk.

I've got more pieces up in My Store so please check that out too. Of course as soon as I listed the last of it I made more, haha. It's becoming an addiction! I'm also hoping to make a few new sets later in the week too. I've got some new ideas that I'll be playing with so I'm excited about it!

I hated ending last week on a down note. I am tired and worn-out, but I have a lot of confidence that I will get back into the swing of things this week. I'm working in a temporary space and work and it's somehow got me feeling more productive :)

I hope everyone has a great week! Stay tuned, I feel a delicious story brewing for this week!

Friday, March 25, 2011

Laying it all out there...

I am tired. Not physically tired, though I've had a lot of that this past week, but emotionally tired. In fact, it's safe to say I'm exhausted. My job is emotional. I carry a lot of emotional burden there that most day to day jobs don't entail. I don't really complain about that or share it with my friends very often because I love my job, and I chose it. They didn't, and therefore it isn't fair to burden them with that.

Lately though, the emotional burden has stretched beyond cases at work and into the lives of friends and family. I am not a certified therapist or anything like that, but my job has all the components of a caseworker, a friend, and a layman therapist. I'm a problem solver. When people are experiencing unnecessary emotional pain, I want to help.

Lately I've had a lot of people sharing their problems with me. Phone calls, text messages, e-mails. Everyone wants to tell me about their problems and how horrible their lives are. I feel guilty when I cannot empathize with some of these "problems", but I'm always willing to talk it out and try to help. I struggle with being angry when people come to me solely to complain, and never actually let me be a friend or try to help.

I know that you can't make the horse drink the water, so to speak. I get that sometimes people just need to vent. I recognize that just because someone wants your advice doesn't mean they are going to take it. I am aware that some people prefer to be alone with their pain, because they have trouble opening up. I know all of these things. Yet I'm constantly worried about these people. I feel their pain. I want to make it better. 

But I can't.

So I stay glued to the spot I'm in with an emotion that is something like wanting to scream in anger and cry with sympathy all at the same time.

I got an e-mail from Just Jen today that really hit home. It was the story of a man who was carrying a wagon of stones up a hill because God asked him to. Along the way his friends asked if he wouldn't mind carrying theirs too, since he was on his way. In the end when he could no longer carry it, God comes and tells him that he was not responsible for the burdens of his friends, and that He would not give him more than he could stand. It was a good story, with a really good message.

Yet somehow, I am afraid that if only worry about my own burdens I will become selfish and apathetic. I want to be a good friend/family member, but not at the expense of all this stress. It's beginning to take a physical toll on me, and I want to be able to enjoy the good things in my life without constantly worrying about everyone.

I would love your input and advice. Some moments I feel justified in my anger, and some moments I feel like a horrible friend and family member. I've got to get a handle on this. I feel as though I'm going to break under the pressure of all this stress that shouldn't be mine.

Thursday, March 24, 2011

Daisy likes it naughty!


1. (via AngelWhere is your most sensitive spot that you did not expect to be sensitive?
My back, of course this is after an orgasm usually, when I'm sensitive damn near everywhere.
2. Do you like oral sex?
Love it!
3. Have you ever tasted someone that tasted just of the nastiest nasty ever?
No, thank God!
4. drunk text me right now!
I'd have to be drunk for that (I'm at work) and I don't have your number!
5. How many partners have you had?
6. Have you ever had your ass licked?
I guess bitten counts?
7. Do you like anal sex?
haven't tried it
8. Girls will you have sex on your period? boys will you do it?
Nah, it only lasts two days, I'd rather wait and feel all clean :)
9. Sex in a public place?
Oh yes... I still need to blog about that!
10. Are you lusting after someone right now?
always ;)
11. drunk text me again...
again, work and no number!
12. One word to describe your sex style. 
13. One word to describe your kissing style.
seductive? haha, I hope!
14. Shaved, trimmed or full bush?
15. Do you have a blogger crush?
not currently
16. Fantasy?
gosh... so many! Police Officer?
17. How do you nurse your sore crotch after being used like a punching bag ;)
I don't, is it weird that the soreness is somehow a pleasant reminder for me?
18. (Im grasping here running out of questions)....show a hot pic if you want.
Avatar, it's all I have. Again, at work. 
19. What do you think about bondage?
like it!
20. Talking dirty hot or not?
very hot
21. Put a question you want to ask for next weeks 21 questions! 
Worst Date ever?

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

The Best Laid Plans

So when I came off of my little break a few weeks ago I was so excited. I had several post ideas rolling around in my head. I made a personal goal of writing at least 2 stories a month if not more. I went so far as to grab a super cheap dayplanner to outline this stuff!

Clearly my intentions have gone awry. I've just gotten so busy! I keep thinking I'll set up some posts and things on the weekends and yet I don't have any extra time then either! So it's another day of not much to say.

I'm looking forward to the weekend. This is the first Friday night in a while I don't have any major plans so I'm hoping for a nice relaxing movie night or something. I'm glad it's Wednesday and the end is in sight!

Anybody else feel like they are chasing their tails?

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Come on, do a little shopping!

So, I created an Etsy site. Initially I was selling wine bags and wine charms, then I added my blankets. Now I've developed a love for making Jewelry. I still have a necklace, four bracelets and five pairs of earrings to list but I've run out of time for now. More to come :) But go ahead and check me out! 


These are a few of my favorite things to this point.

Also, this week I'm giving a discount code to any blog friends who purchase from me! Just use BLOG10 at checkout!

Monday, March 21, 2011

I think I may cry soon...

I'm so tired I could just dissolve into tears! When i lay down to go to bed at night I have trouble getting to sleep, and then I oversleep my alarm and my mornings are rushed! Try as I may I can't seem to break the cycle. I've been like this for a few weeks now and it's driving me crazy!

I have yet another busy week ahead of me and I keep wondering when it will let up. I looks like it could be in a few weeks, but until then...

I did have a few hours at home this weekend though and I spent some time making jewelry, my new favorite hobby. I have several different sets made and I'm going to try and get them listed on Etsy tonight. I have a hard time making good pictures. The camera I have now is the best I've ever owned, but it's just not good enough.

One of the semi-decent shots

Check back tomorrow though, because once I get them listed I'm going to show them all off and offer a discount to my blog friends :)

Saturday, March 19, 2011

I love them... that is all

I love these two. I've been dying to have their CD but I just haven't taken my butt to Best Buy to get it. I hope you like them too :)

Friday, March 18, 2011

AMEN, and Daisy's 21 Questions

So it's been a while since I've been reading enough to actually give out and AMEN from the Choir Loft, but this week I found a solid award winner!


If you haven't already you definitely need to check this chick out. While your there she sells make-up and baked goods too, so check all that out ;)

Congrats Steph, couldn't have said it better myself!

On to 21 Questions:


This week is first thing you think of are ya ready???
1. Pink
Get the Party Started
2. Lolly pop
3. cherry on top
I can tie the stem with my tongue ;)
4. 3
sisters.... but I have four? weird
5. entertainment center
I wish
6. spoon
nice relaxing evening
7. Biology lab
8. Wham Bam
Thank you ma'am
9. Dessert
10. Rough
Like it
11. Hot tub
Gettin' Naked
12. Sex Club
13. Lips
14. floor
Need to vaccum
15. ice
16. naughty or nice
naughty ;)
17. table top
oo, hadn't tried that yet
18. back
19. Ryan Reynolds (yes had to get him in)
20. Tattoo

21. boobies

Love mine :)

Thursday, March 17, 2011

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Mabel & Nanny's Designs *Review*

So when Nanny sent out a request for reviewers for her Esty site, Mabel & Nanny's Designs, I was more than happy to contribute. (Sorry it took so long!) Imagine my surprise when I checked my mail and found not only a review product but presents as well! She's so sweet!

I received this Beaded Book Thong for review. I loved the colors and the bead that she used. I'm a huge fan of glass beads, particularly ones with lamp working. There are metal charm embellishments on either end of the book thong so as it marks your place it kinda dresses up the book on your nightstand. Mine also had a cute little trademark charm with the name of the shop! I tried to get a good up close picture but my camera wouldn't cooperate. I like the book thong because it keeps me from dog earring the pages of my book and it doesn't hurt the pages.

I liked the Beaded Book Thong a lot, and while it wasn't asked of me, I want to show you one of the gifts she sent me!

It's a Book Thong/Bracelet! Like I said, I don't like that I used to dog-ear the pages of my books, but when I used paper book marks I always lost them. With this book thong you just wear it while you read and it's there when you need it!

I have to admit I've worn it once or twice without the excuse of a book :) HERE is one for sale now that is a combo of the two shown above!

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

I've got a drinking problem...

So here's the thing. I gave up sweet beverages for Lent. I tend to drink my weight in sweet tea and diet coke. So for Lent I limited myself to black coffee, water, and red wine. (What? You thought I'd give up alcohol? It was good enough for Jesus!) So since last Tuesday I haven't had any tea or coke or lemonade. I tell you... water can get a little boring.

I'm coming to have some real issues with people though, I mean, I'm a little cranky without my sweet tea. My first issue is this, they don't want to give me a large ice water at the drive through! I was running errands yesterday at lunch and went through the golden arches for goodness is a paper bag. When they asked what to drink I said a large ice water. I mean, even if it's just water, I'm a thirsty girl. The guy tells me they don't have a large ice water. They have bottled water, and small ice waters. WTF? That is ridiculous! Like people who drink water don't drink as large quantities or something? So what did I do? I was a smart ass and ordered two small ice waters. Seems stupid though, they just wasted an extra cup.

My second beverage issue has nothing to do with water though. Am I the only one who thinks it's a little crazy how much they charge for drinks at restaurants? So, if I order a tea or soda with a meal, I basically always get a to-go drink. I mean, I paid what? $2 for the drink? So I get a to-go cup.

Now, the natural flow of this is the last time they come by to check on us when we're leaving. They usually ask, "Can I get you some more tea/coke/water?" To which I reply, "Actually can I get one to-go?" Most places bring back a fresh drink in a to-go cup. More and more often though, I've been to places that just bring me the cup, lid, and straw. Even if my glass is less than half full. That just makes me mad. I worked as a waitress in school and I'd have never gotten away with something like that, it's just bad service!

So I transfer the little bit I have left and leave the cup at the edge of the table so that they can refill it before I leave. I've gotten ugly looks for it but I think it's crazy that someone who has been trained to provide service doesn't realize why that would piss me off a little.

Ok, done ranting about beverages. I'm really glad I didn't give up red wine. I will be having it tonight :) Now for your enjoyment, a little Rehab.

Monday, March 14, 2011

Are my eyes open?

This is me... struggling badly. Don't judge my dimly lit office, the unpainted nails or the sadly lifeless hair. I don't have the ability to fix my broken light, nor the energy to deal with the rest of it today. I still don't feel like I have slept. Almost immediately after I posted on Friday I got a call at work and ended up working until midnight Friday night. I drove to visit my mom and sisters on Saturday which was loads of fun, but between the late night laughs and the time change, I'm not exactly rested.

My sister was telling us this story about how she was drunk and asking people if her eyes were open (you had to be there) but that's how I feel today. I feel like I'm the walking dead looking to other people for some indication that I'm functioning correctly. Work started early this morning and I've got so much to catch up on. I do think that I will catch up this week though. I also think I'll get back to normal here as well :)

So yeah.... Happy Monday.

Friday, March 11, 2011

Sleep? Oh yeah, I should do that.

When I tell you this week has been a fucking marathon with work and everything else I have to do I'm not exaggerating. It hasn't all been normal and pleasant either. There has been several bouts of pure ugliness in this week. I'm glad that in exactly thirty minutes, it will be over!

I have been called out for not updating at all since Monday. Of course she was teasing with me, but she's right. I had a lot of things I needed or at least wanted to do this week but I guess they will have to wait for next week. One thing that I will be doing very soon is posting the review I'm doing for Nanny's Etsy shop! I've had this on my list for at least a month! I'm just too exhausted to give you anything of value today.

Monday, March 7, 2011

And the winner is......

Comment #65, Lucid Obsession!

Congrats! I will be e-mailing you soon! Everyone else, thanks for entering! I'm looking at having a "Follower Giveaway" when I get 200 followers. I have lots of sex toy freebies that I haven't opened and don't plan to just because I already have so much. So I'm going to find ways to share that wealth :)

30 by 30

So we were away last weekend celebrating J-man's 29th birthday. We had a great time, and there was plenty of 'nearly 30' teasing happening. He pointed out though that he would need to get busy this year. Last year around his birthday he put together a 30 by 30 list. He put a lot of active goals on their, like marathons, and para-gliding, and triathlons, etc. He couldn't remember whether or not there were any sexual acts actually written out on the list (though apparently there were plenty floating around in his head).

So he has a year to do about 25 or so of those things. You see, he apparently didn't make much progress last year. In light of that, I decided to make my own 30 by 30 in hopes that I'll finish it in the next 3 1/2 years :)

I'd put sex in public on the list, but wouldn't you know I handled that while we were gone! I'll give you more details on that one a little later this week :) So any public sex acts will have to be clearly spelled out on my list.

So what do you all think I should put on my list? I have a few ideas, but when I finish the list I'm going to post it here and I'd love to know what you all think are simply "must-do's" for my list!

Friday, March 4, 2011

I'm Back & My New Anthem

So I'm sort of unofficially back! Monday is and MWM but as of Tuesday it will be all me! It looks like you guys really got into some of these guest posts! I'm gonna have to read through the comments and see what's been going on! So I'll spend the weekend reading and catching up. I have stories to tell and reviews to write so prepare yourself! ;)

Some of you may not like country music, and some of you have never lived in the south to understand what some people can be like around here. "Judgmental" seems to be in the water some people are drinking. Anyway, I've stumbled across my new anthem :) I thought I'd share it with you.

I ain't the kind you take home to mama
I ain't the kind to wear no ring
Somehow I always get stronger
When I'm on my second drink

Even though I hate to admit it
Sometimes I smoke cigarettes
Christian folks say I should quit it
I just smile and say 'God Bless'

'Cause I head Jesus, he drank wine
I bet we'd get along just fine
He could calm the storm and heal the blind
And I bet he'd understand a heart like mine

Daddy cried when he saw my tattoo
Said he loved me anyway
My brother got the brains of the family
So I thought I'd learn to sing

'Cause I head Jesus, he drank wine
And I bet we'd get along just fine
He could calm the storm and heal the blind
And I bet he'd understand a heart like mine

I'll fly away from it all one day
I'll fly away

These are the days that I will remember
when my name's called on a roll
They'll meet with with two long stem glasses
make a toast to me coming home

'Cause I head Jesus, he drank wine
And I bet we'd get along just fine
He could calm the storm and heal the blind
And I bet he'd understand,
understand a heart like mine, oh yes he would

*Except... I'll probably wear a ring ;)*

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Officer Newlywed

Adventures in Estrogen

If you've never checked out Lady's Adventures in Estrogen you are really missing out! She's given a little tale to entertain us today. Show some love then go check her out for more hilarious stories!
She hadn’t seen him in 8 years; it had seemed like a lifetime ago. They arranged to meet for lunch and he was going to come and pick her up at her office. She had always had a thing for him. He was a fucking beautiful male specimen; that was to be certain. They had given in to their attraction on one brief occasion which even then, although full of explosive lust, had been stopped before it had gotten to the good ‘n dirty stuff... sadly.

Now they were both married; her of 7 years and him of only 6 months – a god damn newlywed. He was now a detective in the metropolitan police department. He texted her that he was caught up in court, but would be there to pick her up shortly.

He texted again; he was in the parking lot. She freshened up, re-applied her make-up and double checked her hair before hopping into the elevator. She was excited to see him after all these years. As she walked across the parking lot, he got out of his car. He walked towards her in what seemed to be slow motion. Whatever visual memory she had of him from the past didn’t do him any justice – he was even hotter than ever before – if that was even possible. He was wearing a suit, sun glasses and his detective’s badge hung around his neck. He was a fucking Law & Order sex god – now approaching his biggest fan. She found it difficult to contain herself; she wanted to giggle and squeal and then shove her tongue down his throat. He gave her a big hug and even that form of contact caused her to wet herself with feminine lust.

They got into his car and he removed his sunglasses to reveal his hypotonic blue eyes and he smiled, “You cut your hair short! It looks sexy.” He reached over and ran his fingers through her hair. She purred a little in her head, but a tiny moan did manage to escape. “Does that feel good?” he added, as he continued to massage her head.

“Yes! You fucking tease! Enough of that. Thank you.” She laughed and continued, “You know what you do to me, so don’t even start.”

He glared into her eyes and stopped smiling. “Who said anything about teasing?” He started the car and started to drive. “Is there somewhere where we can go that’s a bit more, um, private?” She directed him to a spot nearby and her heart and mind were racing – faster and faster. She knew that something was about to happen. This was more than he usually entertained her sexual innuendoes, even after all these years.

They pulled into the spot; he turned the car off and turned towards her. He smiled again and said, “It is so great to see you. It’s been way too long. Have you been a good girl?” He was fucking her with his piercing eyes.

She couldn’t take it anymore. “Can I kiss you?” He nodded and she leaned towards him and grabbed the back of his head while engaging in a cataclysmic kiss; nothing she had every experienced with her husband. It was phenomenal. The kissing alternated between their mouths and her neck and collarbone. He took her hand and placed it on his rock solid cock. “See what you do to me?” He then unzipped his pants and she took him in her mouth. He had one hand caressing the back of her head and the other firmly on the steering wheel, as if he needed it for balance. He let out a moan that was almost a yell of pure elation. “I’m going to finish; here I cum. You’re – fucking – beautiful!”

She swallowed and after a quick tidy-up, she laughed and said, “So, how’s married life treating you?”

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

From the Eclectic Mind of D's girl J

So when I was planning my break I thought, what if my girl J wrote something for you guys. I mean, she read this stuff all the time and usually has something to say about it, and you all sort of get to know her by proxy anyway. So she agreed to write up a little something for you guys! I'm excited about it. So sit tight and show my girl some love ok?!


Well I guess at first you should know a little bit about me and if you don’t want to know, well, you are going to know anyway. I am “my girl J”, not J, J-man, just me. D has too many people with the same letter to be called alphabet men and women now I believe, but anywho. I am peppered all through this blog with some good and bad experiences and somehow my lunchtime rants seem to just magically end up on D’s Fuck You Friday, which I have truly missed. I can be a complete bitch when you push me. I have broken a beer bottle (while wearing a very beautiful formal dress) and threatened a girl’s life when she was mean to my friends, and I have also crumbled into tears over Toy Story 1,2, and 3. So I think I am the definition of a true Southern Belle; fearless, compassionate and extremely loyal. I do not break beer bottles anymore since I have had to grow up some. I also learned how to better channel my hatred. I will say that I would do it again for my sweet friend D! I would possibly go to jail for her if the situation called for such. How do I channel my hatred? Through lots and lots and lots of shopping, my new found love affair with cooking, and LOADS of red wine. Enough about me…

What is your normal?

The other night I had a lovely dinner party to celebrate my friend A’s engagement. I made a fantastic pork loin, roasted potatoes, hot sauce green beans, D brought the macaroni and cheese and it was a wonderful meal. But as the three of us girls were sitting around the table eating, talking and drinking wine I had a thought in my head. This time last year I was where D was with my new relationship with the love of my life. My love and I met years ago in grade school and didn’t reconnect until last year around January. We have been together now for a little over a year and I couldn’t be happier in my relationship. There have been bumps in the road, every relationship has those. One day when D and I went to lunch she was telling me about her theory of crazy and I made a comment that no one's relationship was perfect. Of course she got all sassy and said, “Well, we're still perfect, but we haven’t fought yet.” That statement made me want to throw up a little in my mouth (because I am not a romantic) but it was true.

It made me think though, isn't it healthy to fight or argue sometimes when you have been dating a while? I know that my love and I had a fight almost 3 weeks after we got together. There are relationships out there that fight constantly and some that never fight. What is a normal? What is a normal relationship….is there one? I don’t think there is because really, is anyone normal? I've been wondering about this a lot. Here I am with this man I am totally in love with and we have been together and a year. I pee in front of him, get ready in front of him, and on the occasional drunken night out I have thrown up in front of him. He does all these things in front of me too, but we have been doing these things from the beginning.

D scurries J-man out the door in the morning when she wants to get ready. She'd rather he see only the final product, not the behind the scenes making of it. My absolutely favorite saying is “it is what it is,” and that is probably how I can explain normal. It is such a blanket term but really it is for everyone! I love that 'it is what it is' because when you don’t know what to say, it's like a calming balm that explains everything away. I guess my question is, what is normal in your relationships? Do you like to get it all out in the open or do you want to have a little surprise left? Do you fight? Or do you talk things through without getting emotional?

Tuesday, March 1, 2011


Just a quick interruption from my break to make sure everyone knows that edenfantasys is have a Spring Sale!

So click on the image above to do some 20% off sex toys shopping!

Suggestions you ask? Well of course I'll give you my opinion ;)

Got to test this baby out this weekend. More details to come, but trust me on this one ;)

Still my favorite vibrator. And with this deal you can get it for around $63!

I haven't tried this yet but I want to. It reminds me of the Nomi Tang Better Than Chocolate, which I loved! AND it's already on sale!!

So get to it! Sale ends March 3rd!

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